Dear Miss Deedee,
I have been dating a guy for almost two years now and it’s been steady all the way with the normal trivial fights but we have always managed to stay grounded. Recently, he suggested that we have an open relationship out of the blue. We had not fought or anything so I found it suspicious but I am tempted to agree and see where he is going with it. Is this a red flag or is it a way to spice up our relationship?
I hate to be the bearer of bad news but I have to tell you as it is. The guy is bored of the relationship. It’s that simple. You may have seen some other signs in the course of the relationship but chose to dismiss them as ‘trivial issue’s which sometimes is not the case. The guy wants to let you go slowly and his rationale is that if you each find other people while still dating, it will be easier to break up with each other as a mutual decision. Girl, can you go and call him out for the coward he is and move on. What most people forget is that jealousy is one of the most necessary evils in a healthy relationship and if he is willing to share you, he doesn’t care enough about you. In my own opinion, I believe open relationships exist to usher in closed relationships, not the other way around. The fact that you are feeling a bit wishy-washy about the issue screams out that it will definitely make you uncomfortable. You might want to make him happy but remember you will be compromising your very own happiness. Is that what you really want? I know two years is a long time and you feel comfortable with him as your guy but an open relationship won’t save your love! You will simply watch him fall out of love with you and in love with the ‘other girl’ Don’t let him string you along his shenanigans honey, you are better than that and you know it.